Match online dating profiles
this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).
If I were in your shoes, I would say something along the lines of: “Hey listen…
You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.
Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…
People are so quick to snap up something half-hearted and then try to make that half-hearted relationship into something more.
I’m not saying that never ever works out, but you are much more likely to succeed in your love life when you take the easy path which is: Say NO to what is what you don’t want and learn what makes what you want most likely to come to you.
But since the beginning of time, men and women have had to learn to trust one another in their relationship.
if that’s not what you want with me or in general, 100% in your mind, heart, body and soul… I don’t think it makes you a bad person, I wouldn’t hate you, I wouldn’t be mad at you.
Life is complicated and the heart wants what the heart wants. “When I saw this, it just doesn’t line up with someone who wants to be 100% exclusive. “Life is to short to spend our time, energy and youth on something that isn’t spectacular. I’m fine with either and if you don’t want that, we can part ways as friends – sincerely, no hard feelings.
I would think things like, “Well, things seem good, but what if she’s doing something behind my back and playing me for a fool, etc.
etc.” This type of thing has a lot more to do with our own personal insecurities and not so much with what the other person is or isn’t doing.
I know I am being sneaky/snoopy by checking up on him to see how often her goes on the site (and he goes on often! It’s not like I’d call this guy my boyfriend already, I know it’s still early… Author’s note: I have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as I do from time to time).